Everyone at times can feel as if we have the weight of the world on your shoulders. Many people will grin and bare it, work extra hours and hope that things will get better.
We start saying things like ‘ I wish I had more time in the day’
Sometimes we get through this and sometimes it can have an effect on our home life and health.
The 3R’s is a technique to help.
Relax – Easier said than done, however, putting more and more pressure on yourself is not going to solve anything. Someone once said to me when I was stressing about getting everything done before going on holiday ‘Is anybody going to be physically hurt? Will the department grind to a halt? Is a week away from your desk going to matter?Who can support you when you are away?’. They got me to be more rational about the situation and for me to start seeing who could help.
Ultimately, if you don’t relax and look for support you will burn out and who does that help?
Taking emoition out the equation helps with the next stage.
Review – Take time to review what you have to do
What can you control? Break down everything that you think you have to do using the matrix below. In order to feel more in control and more calm, break down that weight from your shoulders into smaller chunks. What is urgent and what is important. NB. if home life is important to you it should be in the High Importance and Urgent box!
What can you influence? – This is about getting support. We cannot be all things to all people, think about
- Can I get extensions on timescales?
- Am I the right person for this task?
- Am I taking on things because I want to please people around me?
- Can I delegate some of this work?
- Is my ego and preference for being in control stopping me from asking for support?
What is outside my control? – Sometimes we put ourselves under pressure by worrying about stuff that is outside our control and influence. It’s a waste of your energy and time. Accept that it is outside your control and concentrate on what you can change.
Just as wehave to re-boot computers when they have taken on new updates or are working inefficiently we should re-boot ourselves after the above.
Think about your
Focus – Stick to what you have planned. Don’t fall back into dealing with box 4
Openness – Be open to other peoples offers of support and advice. Be flexible, tasks will move around the box
Energy - take breaks even if it is just for a few minutes to get your energy back up. Imagine what it will feel like to tackle what you have prioritised.
I haven’t had a TED video on my posts for a wee while so enjoy this one. Funny and helps to look at our perception